The other day I was talking with a white lady who's married to a black man with children from a previous relationship, and we got to talking about the difficulties her dark-skinned stepchildren have that light-skinned don't, namely feeling less beautiful because our media and culture glorifies light skin and rarely portrays very dark skin as something beautiful. Anyway, we were sharing how we really hadn't been aware of many of the privileges of being white until we got very personally involved with people who weren't, because how could we know? The two of us can't be the only white people in the world who have been enlightened, but I felt a real kinship with her, a complete stranger, because we had this experience in common. Not that I can truly know what it's like to be non white since I can't experience it for myself, but I think after the books I've read and the many conversations I've had, I have a better understanding than most: There are still significant disadvantages to being non white, and when we as white people become aware of them, we can be instrumental in making the world a better place.
So here's my challenge to you, my dear white people, especially those who don't know what I'm talking about. Go out and find a person of color. Get to know said person and really listen to said person's personal experience with colorism issues, race issues, and the like. It'll be eye-opening, enriching, and may build a fantastic relationship. When you think you're seeing what I'm seeing, let me know and I'll have you guest post on the blog.